3 Ways to Stop Judging Now!

3 Ways to Stop Judging Now!

I had it bad, no really, I was like a virus with my judgement of others, as if! I would analyze everything about an individual and compare them to me like I had it all together. But, one thing I never did (thank God) was attack another woman/man for her/his selection of clothing, men, etc (I love people). I judged people based on their broken English, how they carried themselves, how they acted in public, etc. Judging was a part of my daily routine, I would look for things to judge people on. How sad is that? How great is it that I can honestly admit it? And, How great is it that I’ve been delivered?

The bottom line is no matter what, no one deserves to be judged by anyone — PERIOD! Judging someone is one of the harshest things that we can do to one another and it has the ability to be debilitating and can actually push someone who is already at the brink overboard.

Before you launch into being judgmental and judging a person or people, please keep these three things in mind:

1. Do Not Let Your Good Be Evil Spoken Of – WOW! Who wants to live a life of achieving greatness, building a great name and reputation and be known (many times unbeknownst to you) that people really view you as a negative and judgmental person who is always willing and ready to judge their wrong. People want to be around those who they know are sincere, the one’s who are walking the walk while talking the talk. Please, do not think that you are doing good and you’re really doing evil.

2. Turn Your Thoughts From Them And Consider Yourself – My Grandmother use to say, “There goes what could be I!” Now, how humbling is that? You could be that exact person, but, you somehow receive mercy and grace that has not allowed you to pull the number that so many others have pulled, the number that has led to so much plight in life. If we begin to truly place ourselves in the shoes of another and walk just a few steps in their often worn down shoes, we will instantly be reminded of the blessed life we have and withdraw every negative thought we may have.

3. STOP And Consider What Is Inside Of You That Makes You Judge – Yes, the mere fact that you (we) will divert the attention off yourself (ourselves) says that there is something deep down inside of you (us) that causes us to focus on others. If we truly think about it, to take time to look at someone in such a negative light is simply wrong, taxing and time consuming. Remember, we were all created in greatness, all meaning every single person. Fix yourself and I guarantee you will fix the judging.

When we understand and learn how to stop judging others, ourselves, things and events, we will become more positive, stop judging altogether (that is what it is really about) and find true happiness.

I am wondering, “Have you ever spoken curtly or rudely to someone?”  “Have you every judged someone?” If so, where are you at this point of your life? “Are you aware of your habits of judging?”

As you consider the above, please remember, “Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.”

Move Forward In Righteousness XOXO

  • AwesomelyOZ says:

    Yes I think that number 3 is in particular very important; we judge others on what we feel we are lacking. So women who hate on other females generally because they look the way they wish they could and wear things they feel they can’t. Great post 🙂 Have a great one Yulunda! -Iva

    • Yulunda says:

      You got it! Who are we to look at someone and think they are wrong. It is us and something deep down inside of us that allows us to even recognize the faults in others. I am grateful for growth and maturity as I will “shut it down” if and when I hear someone bashing or disgracing another woman. Heck, we ladies are all we got at times.

      Thanks Beautiful Iva – You, are a ROCK STAR!

  • India says:

    “Turn your thoughts from them and consider yourself”. Very powerful. We may not see it, however number two is an epidemic. We stand in a position of judgment, never considering the other persons shoes. This is where our compassion fills in. We have to take a moment to consider the circumstances surrounding our brothers and sisters disposition. For example, “we can suddenly excuse the behavior of unruly teenagers once we realize his father has passed away”. We offer condolences and prayers to his family. We have to learn as you stated above to “walk in their shoes” without having all of the details. Thank you for your inspiration and encouragement.

    • Yulunda says:

      Hello Beautiful India. Yes, most people who act out for whatever reason, there is something “deeper” going on and we show more compassion, people are more apt to look within and strive to do and be better. But if we know better we must do better. Thanks for stopping by beautiful soul!

  • Trina Tatum says:

    I love what you are doing:)

    • Yulunda says:

      Hello! Beautiful Soul. Thank you for all of the support and positivity. Trying to let God use me and be obedient! Muah

  • Jenai H. says:

    I try to incorporate these 3 ways of thinking and doing into my life–I acknowledge that as the imperfect humans that we are, we all judge to some extent but I believe that it is up to us to not let these judgments affect our behavior towards others and to make a conscious effort to remove these negative judgments from our mind and spirit.

    • YGladney says:

      Can I say that I was the judge, jury and prosecutor. Yes, we do judge, but, we must limit the amount of judgment we place on one another. You got it, we should not let our personal judgments overshadow the true greatness in people.


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