CANcer Disclaimer: Y’all are going to forgive any typos or grammatical errors on this one, Okay!
Imagine sitting in a doctor’s office and he is diligently review a report. He then takes a deep breathe, turn around looking each of you in your eyes and say, “You have a ‘very’, ‘very, bad cancer!”
I felt a force of heat flow through my body that I believed my skin had surely melted off the bones and I’d become a shell of a person because I also felt as if my soul jumped out of me.
As I slowly turned to look at Derrick, all I saw was a statuesque like vessel, somber, and emotionless! What seemed like hours were only mere seconds. We had been frozen in time by three words—Stage IV Cancer that had metastasized.
We needed to get him in treatment immediately to try to slow the progression of these rogue cells. Yet, the lady on the other side of the counter had a disposition of, “Yeah, Yeah, I can get something scheduled in two weeks!” That is when, Yulunda, Roy’s baby girl chimed in with, “Nah, you do not understand, my husband has just been diagnosed with a bad cancer and, we’re going to need an appointment tomorrow! You can try to have compassion and assist OR, I can use every network at my disposal to make it happen and you’ll feel the wrath! I had no time for her, “Oh well spirit!” See, we aren’t regular!
We had all of the appointments we needed within 5 minutes and, they were all scheduled to take place within 2-days!
Now, the phone calls. I already knew my mother could not be the first call as her voice would have weakened me into a state of dis-functionality and a total loss of control!
So, I called MoMo, Derrick’s mom and broke the news and with the calmest voice ever she declared, “We are going to be alright and get through this too!” You see, this wasn’t our first valley experience nah, we’ve been through some things that people twice our age Cannot and have not had to comprehend!
My next message was via text to my colleagues to let them know I’ll need a few days and, when I saw my then Director Ed pinging my phone, I had to answer and he and I took a moment to cry and sit in disbelief!
The next call were the sisters, mine and his and then, we got in our cars to deliver the news to my mom!
As expected, she broken down in tears! She is one of the most loving, caring, and compassionate people I know and she tenderly bares the burdens of others often times on her knees. So, we prayed and decided to keep walking by faith and not by sight!
Our kids are so resilient and, when we broke the news to them, they immediately started believing God for total and complete healing. They have been the ray of sunshine ☀️ in this storm ⛈. They’re such amazing people that we know will be a significant impact in the earth!
Finally, late into the evening, we got a call from one of God’s TRUE Warriors, the illustrious songstress and evangelist l, Pat Pennington and she didn’t say many words, she sang and we knew that the healing had begun.
Now, while most couples plan a celebration for their 16th wedding anniversary, we were gathering necessities for our first chemotherapy treatment. Though it was surreal, we had (and still have hope) — We walk by It!
Fast forward to today, 2017 and, we’ve been through 11 rounds of Chemo (6 is the average), immunotherapy treatments, hormone therapy, holistic therapy, radical surgery (in Los Angeles), countless doctors visits (in/out of state), a stint in ICU and YET we are still standing. Dr. V as we passionately call him has pulled out every tool in his kit and has said on many occasions, “Thank you for trusting your family with me!” as he strolls around the clinic he oversees with his Jesus tie and wristband on.
Though we are still in this fight, trust that we are living life to the fullest knowing without a shadow of doubt that the words coined by Kirk Franklin ring truer today than when he prescribed them…
“You don’t have to worry and don’t you be afraid. Joy comes in the morning, troubles they don’t last always.” “For there’s a friend in Jesus, who will wipe your tears away.” “And if your heart is broken, just lift your hands and say…”
“I know that I can make it.”
“I know that I can stand.”
“No matter what may come my way.”
“My life is in your hands.”
Yes, we’re those radically crazy, John the Baptist acting, Shadrach/Meshach/Abednego believing, Daniel being cool in the lions den, rock hurling David’s of the world!
On November 4, here in “Saint City”, Derrick is being honored for his resiliency and strength and, we’d LOVE to have your support! And, he’s not the only one as there are other’s in this fight singing along with us, “We shall overcome some day!” More information here becuase CANcer won’t win!
And one more thing, GOD IS REAL!
Move Forward In RIGHTeousness XO