I will be the first to admit that I was labeled as a “worry worm.” Actually, at one point in my life, I could have been the president of the National Worrying Association (NWA). I also know that the title was not exclusive to me because there are worry worms all over the world.
I am grateful that I had a revelation that worrying will only cause the direction of my life to to turn toward havoc road, which is located near the intersection of self-pity and frustration. I had to simply let things move like the flow of a river. The revelation came by way of a posthumous mentor, Dale Carnegie who showed me “How to stop worrying and start living.”
Now, imagine combining worrying with frustration and resentment, you have a total ocean of chaos and anxiety, which turns into a perfect storm, and, not to many enjoy a storm, especially if they do not have the proper shelter? In fact, we will go to extreme measures to ensure our safety by building up walls, temporary shelters and safe places from the said storm. And, those same protective means can cause us more worry, frustration and resentment.
The transition from worrying to having a sense of peace and trust happened at a time in my life when I simply had no choice but to shift. Worrying was draining me and unraveling me one thread at a time. I finally got to the place in my life where I had had enough (can you say tired?) and made the decision to trust my faith more and believe that all things would eventually work out in my favor (you know, for my good). Besides, it became impossible to enjoy the fullness of life and everyday happiness when my mind was consumed with worry.
When things happen in our lives as we know they will, our first instinct is to become frustrated, which will make us question our purpose, abilities, hopes and dreams. Yes, we should express our emotions, but the majority of the time, our emotions are expressing us because they really gain full control. We will get frustrated, but, it is at the point that we realize the frustration is building up that we must immediately unplug it from its source and begin to replace it with positive affirmations to recharge our spirits.
Resentment is another tiresome emotion in itself, because it will have us playing and replaying the mistreatment we’ve endured over and over in our mind’s until we are consumed with anger, thoughts of payback and wishing injustices on the offenders. In order to be truly free, we must release ourselves from the stronghold of resentment, let it go and know that in time, everyone will give an account for their actions.
Finally, please allow me to add to the words of Mr. Marley by saying, “Don’t worry, be frustrated or resent, Be Happy!” Besides, “Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment!” And, who wants THAT?
How have you freed yourself of worry? Let me know how by commenting.
Move forward in righteousness XOXO